In the first seven years the child is like a sponge absorbing everything from his environment, our beliefs, behavioural patterns, responses and so on. If during that time a child has had negative or unpleasant experiences, such memories stay with the child for the rest of his/her life, leading to emotional challenges as an adult. The first 7 years of our lives lay the foundation for later learning and healthy development in all areas – emotional, psychological, physical or spiritual. “The greater a child’s terror, and the earlier it is experienced, the harder it becomes to develop a strong and healthy sense of self.” ~ Nathaniel Branden Six Pillars of Self-Esteem I do hope more parents gain strength to break through generational patterns and provide children with an environment that helps build healthier adults. I’m well aware that it’s not just me who has suffered, some have suffered far worse and some less, but today there’s far more research on how going through this in childhood impacts adult life. I remember the howls and screams of my neighbour’s children, seemed to me, they had it quite bad as well. I’m not here to talk about past traumatic experiences, I understand that the way I was brought up at that time was the norm for most children of my time. If you have read my article on ways to grow beyond your childhood trauma I counter this behaviour by trying to recollect as many memories I have that brought me joy in my childhood, so it becomes easier to let go of bad ones. Every time I go back to my childhood I’m flooded with unhappy memories, I actually have to struggle to recollect the good ones, and this is actually how as humans our brains work. He was sitting on the pelmet, and we couldn’t reach him, so she called my grandfather, and it was difficult catching him with him flying about out of their reach.Īlthough after he was put back in the cage, neither of them believed he could escape on their own, and I was at the receiving end of a situation I had not created. One day Sunny managed to escape his cage, when I noticed it I ran and told my mother, but she did not believe the bird could get out of the cage without assistance. I have always been fond of animals, and as a kid we used to have these little budgerigars or love birds at home in a little cage. There’s a particular incident that I recollect very vividly to date, I do not recollect this incident because I was given a whack but more to do with the fact that I was not believed / trusted. I still remember walking down the streets of the festival and see the shops that sold the edibles, candles, so many knick-knacks and of course shops that sold the cane. So it was always a funny thing, on one hand you have a boat and on the other a cane. On the other hand, this festival had something of interest that most parents took home, a thin bamboo cane used for whipping. I used to get this little metal boat that I could put in a tub with a little candle to power it, and this used to make me really happy. When I say punished it doesn’t mean sit in the corner, in India it is a common practice for children to be given a couple of whacks, slapped, hit with a slipper/flip-flop or even a cane.ĭuring one of the annual festivals in suburban Bombay, Mount Mary’s festival, which was one of my favourite places to visit as a child. There are a few memories that still play back in my mind – one of them was when I was punished for something I did not do. ![]() If you did not have a traumatic childhood consider yourself lucky. Personal Experience with Trauma as a Child The effects of childhood trauma in adults.Personal Experience with Trauma as a Child.This article, covers the following topics :
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